Playing the Victim
Posted: Sat Apr 12, 2014 1:58 am

By abusers
Victim playing by abusers is either:
- *diverting attention away from acts of abuse by claiming that the abuse was justified based on another person's bad behavior (typically the victim)
*soliciting sympathy from others in order to gain their assistance in supporting or enabling the abuse of a victim (known as proxy abuse).
This serves two purposes:
- *justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat others and what they believe about themselves.
*justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or condemnation they may fear from others.
Manipulators often play the victim role ("poor me") by portraying themselves as victims of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on sympathy to get cooperation.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing