Grimork wrote: ↑Fri Mar 25, 2022 11:48 am
fluxmaster wrote: ↑Fri Mar 25, 2022 11:01 am
Grimork wrote: ↑Thu Mar 24, 2022 4:28 pm
Children obviously have no business contemplating these matters.
They need to know the basic facts, and, knowing those facts, they will contemplate whatever they choose to contemplate. There can be no forbidden thoughts, only forbidden actions.
Sorry I like my children to not be thinking on sex and instead focusing on being children, you can raise your kids however you like. There's a lot more important things such as building relationships before even getting to an adult point.
Childhood is a time when children learn about the world and develop theories about how the world works. This is especially true of an intelligent child with a scientific mind, who will spend much of his time contemplating the world and theorizing about how things work.
When I was a child, my parents didn't want me to know about sex. It was made clear to me that some things children were forbidden to know and forbidden to talk about. I was an obedient child who respected his elders, so I never sought to obtain any forbidden knowledge or ask about it. I trusted that I would learn those things when I was ready.
What I did know as a child was that a boy had a penis, that a girl didn't, and that a boy used his penis for urinating, so my understanding of human sexuality was that it was all about urination. The difference between boys and girls was that boys urinated one way, and girls urinated another way. So a lot of the attitudes that boys had about girls and that men had about women made no sense to me. Why would someone treat a certain class of people a certain way because of the way they urinated? I also knew that women got pregnant and not men, but that seemed rather odd to me, because a baby developed in his mother's stomach, and both men and women had stomachs. To me, sexuality was all about mode of urination.
Differences in mode of urination was not on the list of forbidden things to talk or think about. Girls would and frequently did complain about how it was so much easier for boys to urinate while, for example, taking a walk in the woods, then it was for girls. This reinforced in me the notion that sexuality was all about mode of urination.
Since I had a theoretical mind, I theorized about why there were two different modes of urination. I reasoned that, since men, in primitive societies, went out in the woods to hunt for food, while women stayed home to cook and take care of the house, men needed penises to urinate in the woods, while women didn't. I reasoned that there should theoretically be four sexes, one sex with two penises, a front penis for urinating and a back penis for defecating, one sex with a penis in back for defecating but none in front for urinating, and the existing two sexes.
In school I was the most intelligent child in my class by far. The other children were all morons who always said and did ridiculous things. When I was six years old, one of the boys tried to explain to me how to beget a child, but I didn't understand what he was talking about. I thought he was saying that a man urinated in a woman's rectum. He appeared to be saying that humans are formed by mixing together urine and feces. I told him that that was ridiculous, that he was making it all up. We were taught in catechism that we were created by God, not formed by mixing together urine and feces.
I was literally the only child in my school who didn't know what sex was. For the next eight years, the children would repeatedly try to explain to me what sex was, but I didn't believe them and kept telling them that they were making it all up. One boy would draw pictures of sexual acts and show them to me. Another boy bragged about sexual acts he had supposedly had with adult women and provided graphic descriptions of such acts. To me, they were all just acting silly.
Much of human behavior makes no sense whatsoever without a basic understanding of sex. An intelligent child with a healthy curiosity about the world will come up with some strange notions about human behavior if he doesn't have a basic understanding of sex. Also, children do experience sexual arousal. Lacking knowledge of sexuality, I thought that arousal was caused by a need to urinate, so I never could understand why I could not urinate when I was sexually aroused.
Having a basic understanding of sex would have spared me all of this. At a minimum, every child, by the time he is six or seven, needs to know that the reason that a boy has a penis has nothing to do with urination, that, as a man, he will use his penis to beget children. He can learn all the fine details when he is ready, but he must understand why, at a basic level, a boy's body is different from a girls, and that it has nothing to do with urination.
